As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same.
But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile.
There’s a broad spectrum of what it means for people to call themselves a Christian—from very liberal to very conservative and everything in between.
Just because a woman calls herself a Christian doesn’t mean her beliefs or lifestyle choices are the same as mine.”Define your standards in advance. Some Christian singles are reluctant to voice their convictions for fear of being labeled “old-fashioned” or “narrow-minded.” But it’s best to be up-front about what is and is not acceptable to you.
This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. “Let’s just sit back and see what happens” might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn’t one of them. I hope and pray these words spark conversations in your ministries, relationships, and homes. If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back… Here’s the deal: marriage isn’t a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. This requires discipline, restraint, and abstinence from activities that don’t promote holiness. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating.
Most importantly, guidelines and principles for dating will transform lives and shape eternities. The brokenness you see in yourself and the brokenness you experience from your spouse point both of you to the only perfect one, God. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target.
But within a week, the head pastor of our 2,000 person church found out we were dating.
Yet God has more in store for you than just jumping from one relationship to another.A few years ago, I had just started “talking” to a guy from church, and I told him we should keep things on the down low.I didn’t see the need for everyone to find out too early on.However, even among Christians, there are differences as to whether you should or should not date.
The choice is up to you and your parents, but Christian teens should still know God’s perspective on dating.
He is clear on whom you should date and why you should date.